Eight Years, One Family, Two Sales: A Two-Family on River Road in Bogota, NJ

When this family first called me, they were not living in Bogota yet. They were in Ridgefield Park, looking for something more — a two-family home that could anchor their lives and help them build something. We met. We talked through what they actually needed, not just what they thought they wanted. And about eight years ago, we closed on a two-family on River Road in Bogota, NJ.

Last week, we closed the sale of that same house. Above full price. With a story behind it that most people will never see from the outside.

This is a sale blog, but it is not really about the sale. It is about what it actually looks like to walk with a family through a chapter of their lives — from the day they buy the home to the day they hand it back to the next family — and what gets tested along the way.

A Chapter, Not a Transaction

In the eight years between those two closings, this family lived a life inside that house. They navigated the pandemic. They navigated financial seasons that tested them. They raised a household. They held tenants. They held the line.

I did not see them every month. That is not what the work is. But I was the call they made when they had a question about the market, about a permit, about whether to refinance, about what to do with the rental side. I have always believed that the relationship is the work, and the transaction is just one chapter of it. That is the philosophy behind every testimonial my clients have ever left for me.

When they finally told me they were ready to sell — that they had decided to move to another country and retire somewhere that gave them peace — I knew this was not going to be a simple listing. It was going to be a finish line. And finish lines deserve to be honored, not rushed. For sellers walking through this kind of transition, my home selling services for downsizers and my transition advisory services exist precisely because these moves deserve more than a generic listing strategy.

As Jim Rohn used to say, "Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment." This family had carried discipline through eight years of homeownership in a tough housing cycle. My job was to honor that by carrying the same discipline through the sale.

What Actually Came Up

Most of what makes a sale hard is invisible to the seller until it is happening to them. With this two-family, we navigated:

• A certificate of occupancy that had to be cleared cleanly
• Open permits that needed to be closed out before we could move forward
• An active tenant situation that had to be handled with respect, not pressure
• Multiple offers on the property — a good problem, but still a problem to manage well
• A buyer who changed mortgage products mid-stream, which can derail a closing if you do not stay ahead of it
• Home inspection findings that needed real responses, not defensive ones

Any one of these can stop a deal cold. All of them together is what most people picture when they think "the sale fell through." This one did not.

It did not fall through because we slowed down at every turn that wanted to be rushed. We checked numbers, we asked questions, we kept communication clean between every party — the sellers, the buyer, the buyer's lender, the inspectors, the township, the tenants. Nothing dramatic. Just careful, present work.

Michael Singer writes about this in The Untethered Soul. Surrender is not giving up. It is staying present to what is actually in front of you, without letting the noise in your own head amplify the stress. In a real estate transaction, that is the difference between an agent who panics and an agent who finishes. If you are curious about what really sits behind a Bergen County seller's closing statement, my recent piece on what it really costs to sell a home in Bergen County breaks down the math most agents do not bother to walk through.

Why the Buyer's Mortgage Switch Did Not Kill the Deal

I want to spend a moment on the mortgage switch, because this is where most deals quietly die.

When a buyer changes lenders or loan products mid-transaction, the closing timeline gets disrupted, the appraisal may need to be redone, conditions reset, and the seller starts to lose confidence. The natural instinct is to push back hard, get angry, or assume bad faith.

Chris Voss, the former FBI hostage negotiator, has a phrase that has stayed with me: "He who has learned to disagree without being disagreeable has discovered the most valuable secret of negotiation." When the buyer changed mortgages, I did not react. I asked questions. I labeled what the buyer was likely feeling — pressure, uncertainty, a need to protect their family financially. I gave the buyer's side room to fix the issue while keeping my seller protected.

The deal held because nobody got pushed into a corner. That is not luck. That is the work.

The Multiple Offers Problem

When a listing receives multiple offers in this market, the seller's natural instinct is to chase the highest number. Sometimes that is the right move. Often it is not. The highest number on paper is only as good as the buyer's ability to actually close.

We slowed it down. We looked at every offer side by side — not just price, but proof of funds, loan strength, contingency stack, the buyer's timeline, the buyer's track record on similar purchases. The family followed the lead and we picked the right offer, not just the loudest one. And we ended up closing above full price anyway, because the right buyer was both serious and motivated.

Ed Mylett has a line I think about often: "The margin of victory in life is razor-thin." In real estate that razor's edge is whether the agent picked the buyer who could close or the buyer who only looked good on paper. If you are curious about how long a deal like this actually takes from listing to keys, I wrote about realistic timelines in my piece on how long it takes to sell a home in Hudson County — the same timeline math applies in Bergen County.

The Real Goal

The numbers were good. Above full price. Closed on time. No one had to fight at the table. But what made this sale matter was that it funded the next chapter for a family I have known for eight years. They are moving to another country to retire. They are moving with peace of mind, not financial strain. That is what the sale was actually for.

That is what every sale should be for, if we are being honest about the work.

Brené Brown's research on courage and worthiness keeps coming back to one idea: that the brave thing is usually not the loud thing. This family was brave for eight years — through the pandemic, through the financial seasons, through the long quiet work of being a homeowner who shows up. The closing last week was just the day that bravery got recognized in dollars and a deed transfer.

What This Means If You Are Thinking About Selling on River Road, Bogota, or Anywhere in Bergen County

If you own a home in Bogota, Ridgefield Park, Teaneck, Leonia, or anywhere along Bergen County's quieter residential corridors, here is what eight years of walking with this family taught me — and what I would want you to know:

The right time to start the conversation is not when the sign goes in the ground. It is years earlier. The agent you want by your side at closing should be the agent who knew you when there was no closing in sight. That is how the hard moments get navigated without panic. That is how multiple offers, mortgage switches, permit issues, and inspection findings stop being deal-killers and start being just another step in a process you trust.

If you are in that earlier season — not selling yet, but thinking about what comes next — that is exactly the right time to call. No pressure. No pitch. Just a conversation about your house, your timeline, and what would actually make the next chapter feel right. If you want a starting point, my home valuation tool gives you a quiet first look at where you stand in today's market.

Let Us Talk

Whether you are ready to sell next month or just starting to think about what your home is worth in today's Bergen County market, I would be honored to be the call you make. Schedule a private conversation here when you are ready — no pressure, no timeline.

Scott Selleck The Selleck Group — Keller Williams City Views Realty 2200 Fletcher Avenue, Suite 502, Fort Lee, NJ 07024 📱 Cell: (201) 970-3960 ☎️ Office: (201) 592-8900 📠 E-Fax: (201) 603-5360 📧 [email protected] 🌐 SelleckSellsNJ.com 💬 Chat with my AI assistant: https://www.delphi.ai/scottselleck 📅 Schedule a consultation: https://tidycal.com/slselleck

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Resources and Further Reading

The wisdom in this piece is drawn from teachers who have shaped how I work and how I show up for my clients. If anything in this story spoke to you, I would encourage you to read them directly:

• Singer, Michael. The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself. New Harbinger / Noetic Books, 2007.
• Voss, Chris. Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It. Harper Business, 2016.
• Mylett, Ed. The Power of One More: The Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success. Wiley, 2022.
• Brown, Brené. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Avery, 2012.
• Rohn, Jim. The Treasury of Quotes. Jim Rohn International.

Scott Selleck is a top-producing REALTOR® serving Bergen County and Hudson County, New Jersey, with a specialty in helping long-term homeowners transition to South Florida. He has been licensed since 1993 and is affiliated with Keller Williams City Views Realty in Fort Lee, NJ, and Keller Williams Boca Raton Realty in Florida. Scott was recently recognized as an AI-Certified Real Estate Agent by the KREM Institute of Technology.